The last weekend has been the most revealing weekend...with me getting a lot of compliments from many of my friends for the small things that i have done for them...and it so came as a surprise as I wasnt really expecting it :)...hmmmm I'll enjoy being in the limelight for a while as i dont get to be there all the time...The small things that you do without your own knowledge sometimes makes a difference in someone's life and I m glad that i was able to and happy that i did ...(F.Y.I...I just came to know that it was becos of me that someone started bloggin...if you havent checked out..please check Sudeep's Blog..He writes extremely well)...I have a mailing list whereby i share some interesting things i come across in web and some books that i read and one of my friend Joseph sent me back these lines and they really did make my day...It just read my mind "If I, a lowly singer, dry one tear,
or soothe one humble human heart in pain,
then my homely verse to God is dear,
and not one stanza has been sung in vain - Jim Reeves"
Wooooow I feel like an Angel already :D *wink* *wink* :P...Wonder how expectations make you feel bad...There have been times when i've done nicer things to a lotta people and have not even got as much as an acknowledgement in return...I've been disappointed at times and vowed not to go out of my way to do anything for anyone...but thats not the way to live life....if you really care about someone you dont even think about expecting anything back....you feel so satisfied on seeing others happy :) and I love that feeling...One on Expectation "Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed" - Alexander Pope.
The Art of saying NO: "One ought not to give way in everything nor everybody"...very true....I've always had difficulty in saying no to everyone...and well most of them know me too well for me to say a NO....that my serious NO is also mistaken to be YES...and this gets me into trouble most of the time...atleast there has been one clear case of this happening to me over the past one year(every other quarter....hope you guys got the hint ;))...I wonder how it is with people who always have a NO on their lips all the time....doesnt that make their relationship with others unpleasant??....Most of the time when a NO-NO person says YES they become everyone's darling but it is not true the other way round...well it def will not be...but when a person who says NO most of the time can say YES then why cant it be the other way round....Well if the refusal is made bluntly..then it completely destroys your dependence or relationship with the other person...Any ideas to tackle these kinda problems...hmmmm I m still looking for answers... :)
And Oh yeah...I've been listening to this song from Mayavi...and found these words very soothing.....Well theres nothing special about it...yet i found something special..that i m unable to comprehend...Hope you guys like it too...Well maybe it is just the wonderful unadulterated use of Tamizh...to express something even more meaningful???..maybe the music..i dont know...I m still guessing...(BTW do listen to this song when you get a chance)Naamellam Swasikka thanithani kaatru kidayadhu
Megangal Megangal Idangalai parthu pozhiyadhu
Kodayil Indru ilayudhirum vasandhangal nalai thirumbi varum
Vasandhangal meendum vandhu vittal Kuyilgalin pattu katril varum
Mudivadhum pinbu Thodarvadhum indha vazhkai sollum padangal dhane keladi
Well I dont wanna translate this word to word..but will put down my thoughts on what this means....
A person irrespective of whether he is good or bad...gets to breathe the same air as others and gets to enjoy the same rain as others...hmmm that would mean that a good deed done by a single person benefits many others..would quote one on Tamil for this " Nallavar oruvarukkaga peyyum mazhai ellorukkum payanpaduvadhu pole"...(means rain coming for one good person is enjoyed by all around him)
The next few lines do reflect the mood or the situation I m going through...It is summer today and hence leaves are falling (Though in reality it should have been winter..but kodai stands for summer I reconfirmed it with an expert.. :P)...but the spring will return tomorrow and flowers will be in full bloom...when the spring does return it will bring the music of the nightingale along with it...When an opportunity goes...another one comes into its place...thats the lesson life teaches us...and now all that I have with me is HOPE...that things are gonna look brighter in the near future.More revealations on the next post :)
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
A Post of Mixed Feelings
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Hey Prits, thank you for advertising my blog...i ll send u the chek for the amount we agreed to.... :P :P
Ahem Ahem....I dont think something like this ever happened...but still...if you are willing to give me the check for no reason....you most definitely can...but on one condition.....it should be a blank check...:P ;)
hmm.."Mixed feelings" was realling a mixture of so many things!
1. You certainly can pat yourself on your back for doing a good job.
2. The value of our giving to others (be it time, money, help, support) can never be underestimated like those Jim Reeves' lines say. Another saying that reaffirms this fact is from Mother Teresa: "We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop."
3. That is a very good observation of "NO-NO persons". I think this is something that we all face. This works for me: "If I can I say YES. Else, I quote the true reason and say NO." What if you want to say YES but can only say NO? :o
4. The explanation of universal fraternity was good.
One general comment, Priti..the background which you had just before this great..with a light color background..white looks too plain..the additional content (Flickr, quotes) looks good! wish I had time to update my blog! :)
This background color looks good!
prits.. good one here. Regarding ppl not thanking after your help, I had a post about same kinda thing .. Expectations about anything could be bad and the quote is a wonderful one..
As for a NO person, There are many who belong to that category and thats not me.. I never can say NO to anyone.. thats been a problem sometimes.. I wish I cud say NO.. I think there are many similarities b/w us..
Joseph - pat pat...I did pat my back :P ;)..The quote from Mother Teresa was a very good one...Liked it thanks :)...hmmm about the NO thing...lucky you...you can say no whenever you want to...but i cant do it even if i have a true reason to and will feel very guilty if my NO made someone feel bad.....:)
Well about wanting to say YES but saying no..that doesnt happen very frequently...dont you think so??
and yeah i did change my template...thanks for the suggestion :)
Vishwas - Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting and yeah i agree...sometimes...you just can't refuse anything... :)...and your short stories are awesome....and i found them very realistic and interesting....keep em coming :)BTW saw the movie "V for Vendetta" recently...your signature reminded me of that movie :)
Vivek - Hey read that post....good one...looks like i m not the only person having this problem...I have some company...well..if i do get any better at this will letya know :).
Priti thats a neat post.
HOPE is all I have too...but sometimes I get tired of hoping too.
HUGGGGGGGZ ur not alone!
Keshi.
Prits.. Heres my 1st request ..
"Na Jane Kyun Hota Hai" from Chhoti Si Baat .. have u heard this before ... its a lovely song.. http://www.raaga.com/channels/hindi/movie/H000542.html ..
give it a try if u can
Prits,
A Very Good Post..
Expectations, Saying 'yes' when we want to say no. Many of us have been through all this so often, yet haven't found a real way to tackle it.
When we say 'NO' to some one, they might feel bad about it. But then it also depends on how you said a NO. There are always nicer ways of saying a NO. This neccesarily does not mean being manipulative, but presenting the reasons in the right way.
From time immemorial all religions have also tried to address such questions/dillemmas we face everyday. Bhagvad geetha to what ever extent i know would have answers to these questions.. Some schools of thought even say that religions/scriptures were all bulit/ evolved around people to answer such complex questions.
Anyways a very interesting topic and one can discuss over it for months together and still not find a convincing answer for the same.
awaiting more revealtions :)
cheers,
Barani
priti:
no i haven't seen the movie, although i do want to. keep in touch, your blog is on my google homepage as an rss feed...keem em coming.
~V!
//Well about wanting to say YES but saying no..that doesnt happen very frequently...dont you think so??//
Ofcourse, it happens..to me often. Let's say we're all good. Then, we should be saying "NO" to bad things and "YES" to good things, right? Both bad things and good things are presented to us all the time (They needn't be requests from some other person, they might even be everyday decisions). But, we do not do the RIGHT thing all the time.
Example for saying YES for NO: "Do you want to watch a program on TV when you have a test the next day?"
Example for saying NO for YES: "Do you want to help the beggar on the street?"
Of course, whether helping beggars is the RIGHT thing is a debate in its own right :)
Keshi - Thanks for the reassurance...Hugzzzzzz and kisses to you too...well we can only hope that we dont keep hoping for a long time :) ;)
Vivek - Listened to that song....never heard it before....will definitely give it a try...but guess it will take a lil long BTW i thought you first asked for Mayil pole :P
Vishwas - Yeah I hope to keep writing and about the movie...I guess i wasnt able to understand it completely...and dint like it too much...may be you would..not sure..and BTW i blogrolled you too.. :)
Barani - Very good discussion there...
//But then it also depends on how you said a NO. There are always nicer ways of saying a NO.//
Yeah I do agree with that...but the problem is if a person close to you knows that you will not deny anything then they have a notion that you are still the same...they find it very hard to accept that it is you who is saying a know... :)
And yeah i do believe that Bhagvad Gita offers solutions to most of the problems in everyday life....I've just started reading it recently...Essence of Bhagvad Gita "Kadamayai sei Palanai edhirparkadhe" (Do your duty dont expect the outcome)..Yeah very interesting topic indeed...and i guess you would have written a better post on this than me :).
Joseph - Happens to you all the time...Yeah i did not look at that perspective at all...when it comes to others saying NO is hard and when it comes to us saying YES is hard rite.....wooooooow.....well just a small example to illustrate this..happens to me when i m cooking...when i cook for my friends and loved ones...i do it with so much of patience and love...but when it is only for me i dont even wanna cook....Phew....that was something that i had overlooked joseph...thanks for enlightening me about it :)
I'm Not very good at writing. Its been a long time since I wanted to write something in my blog.. Never Managed to do so :)
If you have to say a no to some one who is close to you. I guess it becomes easier. Because you can always explain him/her why you are saying a no. I always find it easier to say a 'NO' to my friends and close relatives because I'm sure they'll understand. These days I don't even have to explain them or reason out.
"Kadamayai sei Palanai edhirparkadhe" . Its not Just BG. there are quite a few scriptures and books which convey the same thought, may be on a different tone though.
Psychological studies on positive thinking and state of happiness also have the same thing to say.
Cheers,
Barani
Haven't read the post yet (will do that soon), but, I thought I will quickly type a comment and tell u that the song, "Kadavul thantha azhagiya vazhvu" is my favourite and its such a favourite that it is the Caller tune in my mobile.
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